I stumbled upon this Key and Peele video while procrastinating, and laughed my rear end off! Aren’t we all this way — trying to one-up generosity? Or sometimes giving for ulterior motives? The video was made in conjunction with a New York Times Magazine article about Dr. Adam Grant and his new book “Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success“. In part the NYT states:
Traditionally the thinking has been that employers should appeal to workers’ more obvious forms of self-interest: financial incentives, yes, but also work that is inherently interesting or offers the possibility for career advancement. Grant’s research, which has generated broad interest in the study of relationships at work and will be published for the first time for a popular audience in his new book, “Give and Take,” starts with a premise that turns the thinking behind those theories on its head. The greatest untapped source of motivation, he argues, is a sense of service to others; focusing on the contribution of our work to other people’s lives has the potential to make us more productive than thinking about helping ourselves.
“Give and Take” incorporates scores of studies and personal case histories that suggest the benefits of an attitude of extreme giving at work. Many of the examples — the selfless C.E.O.’s, the consultants who mentor ceaselessly — are inspiring and humbling, even if they are a bit intimidating in their natural expansiveness. These generous professionals look at the world the way Grant does: an in-box filled with requests is not a task to be dispensed with perfunctorily (or worse, avoided); it’s an opportunity to help people, and therefore it’s an opportunity to feel good about yourself and your work. “I never get much done when I frame the 300 e-mails as ‘answering e-mails,’ ” Grant told me. “I have to look at it as, How is this task going to benefit the recipient?” Where other people see hassle, he sees bargains, a little work for a lot of gain, including his own.
So can one really get ahead by never saying no to something that can benefit others? I plan to purchase the book — but I’m not so sure that is the way to get ahead for everyone. I wonder if Dr. Grant took gender into consideration with the success of his altruistic approach? What about race? Perceptions of behaviors can differ due to the individuals (both giver and take-er) gender and racial make up combinations. Once I read the text, I’ll give a more accurate assessment — but any thoughts?
No matter what people think of me– I know I am a Human first. —Ronald Davis
I saw this Gawker article about Mr. Davis in my newsfeed. Sure there point was beating up on Reddit. However what I saw was a wicked problem — or a Big Issue as the PBS serices on social policy is called, that was inspired by Mr. Davis’ video. So what do we do when we see an pan-handler. I was taught that they could be dangerous, so to not give money but walk way and answer politely. I still say ”No, I’m so sorry” to every person who asks me for change as I’m walking down the street. My fiance, on the other hand, is concerned that if we ever move to a large city I’d never make it to work on time. He was raised in DC — so he’s good at the BCI — or the “Big City Ignore”. I swear sometimes I wonder if he even sees the homeless, like really sees them. He was trained to just ignore and keep walking. I keep walking, but I see them. I see them and I’m not sure how to help, how to solve it. I honest to goodness usually don’t have cash (I am a true Millennial who lives by their debit card); but even if I do have cash…I walk by politely acknowledging their request, their humanness, but still giving them nothing. What can we do? What should we do? Should Reddit find this guy and help him get on his feet? Is that that organizations call to social change? Why didn’t PBS help him (well we know why…they are poor too!)? Why didn’t a Chicago orgization help him — this video went viral on YouTube of late…… in my Discourse Analysis class we watched a video with Feminist writer Judith Butler and a companion talking about disabilities. Ms. Butler said soemthing that was applicable to not only disabilities — but any kind of issue where humans need help:
“Do we or do we not live in a world where we assist each other?”—Judith Butler
So do we?
It’s Wednesday — I think we all could use a laugh in this crazy crazy world (unless one of these photos is of you…then no, I’m not laughing AT you, I’m laughing WITH you…).
In hopes that maybe thinking warm will bring summer — here is another hilarious video from the “Don’t Be” guys [Remember Don't Be that Guy at The Gym]. Anyone else ready for steady warm weather?!